Tara Hamilton Howard https://tarahamiltonhoward.com Its all about SASS Mon, 17 Feb 2020 11:30:21 +0000 en-US hourly 1 https://wordpress.org/?v=5.4.1 https://tarahamiltonhoward.com/wp-content/uploads/2019/08/cropped-logo-only-32x32.png Tara Hamilton Howard https://tarahamiltonhoward.com 32 32 Sass mail https://tarahamiltonhoward.com/sass-mail/ https://tarahamiltonhoward.com/sass-mail/#respond Thu, 07 Nov 2019 10:19:46 +0000 https://tarahamiltonhoward.com/?p=2389 Hi firstname,

Your Self Adore Success Assessment results are in! Ready for it?

YOU SCORED: score/10

THE SASS SCIENCE

How do we use your answers to place you on the Self Adore Success System scale? Well, the assessment is based on four criteria:

  • How you relate to yourself
  • How you relate to others
  • Your life purpose
  • Your physical, spiritual and financial well being

YOURSELF

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TARA’S ADVICE: Self-perception is crucial to every type of success in life. This rings true particularly for women, whose self-identity suffers the most over their lifetime. Whether it’s feeling: “not good enough” or, at the other end of the spectrum: “things are fine, why try for more?”, we can be our own loudest critic. The number one key to unlocking unlimited professional and personal success? Harnessing the power of the mind as the force for our own good.

OTHERS

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TARA’S ADVICE:

As humans, we are social beings. Progress in our working life and of course, entrepreneurship, comes from collaboration, negotiation and our ability to engage with multiple personality types. The key is finding that sweet-spot with every interaction. Winning people over is an artform – we can’t change them, but we can change how we relate to them.

LIFE PURPOSE

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TARA’S ADVICE:

We are capable of having all of our needs met simultaneously, but it requires uncovering ourinnate personal superpower (what we were put on this earth to do), so that we can use it to create that perfect trifecta of passion, purpose and profit. Then, it’s about going out into the world with it. The hardest part of this process is separating our roles in life from our self-identity (what we have always done – or the status quo of our lives) so that we can flourish.

MIND, BODY, WALLET

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TARA’S ADVICE:

Over our lives, we tend to sacrifice health for wealth and wealth for health in unbalanced loops, but as we start to live longer (which means retiring later), we must learn how to have both. This can be easily achieved with the right habit framework to keep everything, from the heart to the bank account, ticking along as it should through those extra years. Identifying and using the best systems and frameworks is crucial.

So, there you have your score, firstname! What do you think? I’d love to hear your thoughts (simply hit ‘reply’ to this email).

If you’ve just started the “3 Secrets to SASSy Self-Confidence” course, fantastic! I’m going to cover this is more detail in one of the 3 Secrets training videos. So stay tuned.

But if something is really weighing you down and you want to fast track how you can move past it, for a limited time, I’m picking a select few respondents to do a complimentary, one-on-one 20-minute coaching call with.

If you’re successful, we’ll chat through your score and I’ll give you some more insight as to what’s holding you back and how you can smash through it to reach your goals.

You can put your name down for this free call here (it’s just the two of us).

I’m really looking forward to seeing how you use this insight to create your most fabulous life. You can find more Nuggets of Wisdom © on thriving in middle age on our blog here.

Yours in SASS

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7 Easy Steps to Boost Your Networking Confidence in 2020 https://tarahamiltonhoward.com/7-easy-steps-to-boost-your-networking-confidence/ Wed, 28 Aug 2019 14:34:32 +0000 https://tarahamiltonhoward.com/?p=2242

Some people believe networking is only important when you’re searching for a job – think again. Networking is important to your success, period.

Perhaps you’re looking for more in your life, or you have interests you could pursue, but don’t know where to start… Start with Networking!

When you can master networking effectively, it can expose you to a world of new opportunities.

Thanks to networking, I was able to create and build the Venus Awards and partner with some amazing sponsors, people I had met through different networking events. The Venus Awards have now been coined by Channel 4 as the working women’s Oscars, and has recognized thousands of women across the country.

For some of you, just the thought of going to a networking event makes you anxious. You may feel that you don’t have the confidence or the know-how to network, and you would much rather stay at home in your comfy jumper and watch Netflix!

I still remember my first networking event and how scary it was. Looking back, it seems silly now. I can tell you that over the years, it has become a SASSy cinch!

If you’re an introvert, networking can be very draining. We often hesitate to network, or go to networking events, because we fear we will be judged, not know what to say when meeting new people and want to avoid those awkward lulls in conversation.

But, if you prepare properly and figure out what you want to achieve from the particular event, you’ll set yourself up for success, meet some amazing people, and open the door to unlimited opportunities!

In this blog I’m going to share my top 7 tips to improve your networking SASS, so you can start connecting with some great people and build up the confidence to master your next networking event.

Get Ready To Step Out Of Your Comfort Zone

For many people, the thought of mingling in a room of strangers makes them feel uncomfortable, and they’ll find any opportunity to get engrossed in a text exchange on their phone, rather than striking up a conversation with a complete stranger.

But when you’re at a networking event, it’s time to make some real face-to-face connections. Now’s the time to be a livelier, more confident version of yourself. Put on a determined smile and dive right in.

Going in with a plan and being prepared, will help to ease your anxiety. You may be surprised at how easy it actually is!

7 Tips To Better Networking:  

Tip #1 – Wear Something Memorable

Wear something that is memorable, something that will make you stand out from the crowd.

Dress codes may vary from one networking event to another, but you can have a little fun with your clothes and put some personality into your outfit. Your choices on what to wear can become your brand so you’re easily recognizable.

It’s good to be fashion-forward but also important to wear something that is flattering and is aligned with what you do.

I like to wear my favourite colour, RED. It’s not only a way of standing out, red is also more flattering on me, and it aligns with my brand.

A few years ago I had my colours done, before that I would always wear black because it was easy and matched everything.

Finding out your WOW colours and wearing the right colours for you makes you feel better and more confident. Plus, you no longer waste money on shades that don’t suit you and only end up clogging up your wardrobe!

Tip #2 – Starting a Conversation

If you’re able to, get a list of attendees in advance. Go through the list making sure you not only highlight the ones you want to talk to, but also put a star beside the most important ones you want to connect with. Make specific notes on why these attendees might be valuable contacts.

Also, most importantly, make sure to consider how YOU might be able to help them, or add value to what they do!

Don’t be averse to speaking with people not on your list. I like to strike up conversations with all people in the room, you never know what will come of it. Keep in mind,it’s not just about the people in the room, it’s about the people they know too.

Tip #3 – Starting A Conversation

The key is to ask open-ended questions – ones that do not require a yes or no answer – to engage the person you’re meeting and get them to talk about themselves first. 

You must learn how you can be of help to each person you connect with, and the objective of your conversations should focus on identifying how you can help them specifically. Something as simple as offering to make a helpful introduction goes a long way towards making a positive impression, and will often lead to building a long-term relationship

It’s really good to establish common ground, whether it’s professional, social or through shared experience. 

Not sure what questions to ask? Here are some great open-ended questions to engage people at networking events:

  • How did you get started in what you do?
  • What do you do when you’re not working?
  • What’s the most exciting thing you’re working on at the moment?

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Tip #4 – Make Your Conversations Personal

This is a bit of a continuation of tip #3, but it’s worth some extra attention because connecting with a new contact, on a personal level, is one of the quickest ways to build trust. And trust is crucial in getting people to want to work with you, or to recommend you.

Some great ice-breaker topics are things like hobbies, children, holiday destinations – anything non-business related. This often softens and relaxes people and makes them feel you’re actually getting to know each other and building a relationship.

Tip #5 – Business Cards

You’ll be interacting with a lot of people at a networking event. And remember from tip #2, you’ve done your homework ahead of time, and you have a list of people you want to connect with and reach out to.

Remember to have current and up-to-date business cards on you, to give to them.


While it is becoming more common to not to have business cards, I believe there are still many people out there that are using and appreciate a good business card. It hangs around as a visual reminder of your interaction, more so than perhaps just connecting on LinkedIn.

Your business cards should say what you do, not just your contact information. And this is where you can get creative and have a little fun with it. For example, instead of having your card say Accountant, perhaps have it say something more like: “helping put more money in your purse”.

I like to put my picture on my business card as well.  I think it’s a nice idea and it helps people remember who you are, especially if you follow the idea of choosing a personal style or colour that makes you stand out.

Tip #6 – Create Codes for Business Cards Collected

Creating codes will help you remember who you’ve met, and which new relationships you want to develop further.

When you collect a business card from someone, write a simple code on the card so after the event it will trigger your memory of the conversation, and you’ll remember what action step you wanted to take with that particular person.

By taking the time to do this extra step, you’ll feel confident when following up with them.

Some of the codes I like to use are:

  • E4R – email for referral
  • C4S – call for sponsorship
  • C4C – call for chat

If I have a couple of networking events on the same day, I make sure to have an envelope that I put the card in with the networking event written on the outside and the date.

I also have an app where I can take a picture of the card and upload it directly to my CRM.  You may still want to keep hold of the card, again as a visual reminder to go back onto the CRM and follow up.

Tip #7 – LinkedIn Profile

As mentioned earlier, some people today are only using their LinkedIn profile as their modern-day business card. LinkedIn has a scan and connect option however, the downfall with this is there is no note opportunity.

If you are going to use this method rather than a business card, make sure to send your new contact a message right away, or if you’re not able to do that, use the notes app on your phone. You can use the same code system, so you remember how you wanted to follow up with that particular new contact.

Before you begin any networking, take a look at your LinkedIn profile: Is it up to date? Is it compelling?  Does it indicate how you can help people rather than just your profession?

It’s so important to have this up-to-date and impactful because your LinkedIn profile is one of the first places people will go after meeting you.

BONUS TIP

The above tips have been some guidelines on what you can do at a networking event. My bonus tip is what you need to AVOID that will most likely get in your way of creating successful connections is:

Avoid hanging out all the time with the people you know!

If you are going to an event with people you know, try to split up during the networking.  If it’s a seated event, try to avoid sitting with the people you know.

Spending the time talking with people you already know is easy and comfortable, but it may get in the way of you meeting new contacts, making new connections and achieving your goals.  Remember, this is the reason you are going to the event in the first place!

You can do anything you set your mind to – but it takes action, perseverance, confidence, and the will to face your fears.

Choose to enjoy networking! Book your next networking event and get ready to SASS it up!!

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3 Simple Steps to Get the Pay Rise You Deserve (…and 2 blunders to avoid) https://tarahamiltonhoward.com/3-simple-steps-to-get-the-pay-rise-you-deserve-and-2-blunders-to-avoid/ Wed, 21 Aug 2019 11:06:40 +0000 https://tarahamiltonhoward.com/?p=2081

Is the fear and anxiety of asking for a pay rise holding you back? Do you not feel confident enough to ask for what you deserve?

Why is that?

Part of the reason is we don’t actually know what we are worth, and most of the time we undervalue ourselves.

What’s more, even if we do realise our value and then ask for it, we often suffer consequences such as people finding us bossy, or uncompromising, or even difficult. They don’t want to work with us. Yet it’s often not the same for men…

But you work hard. You’re contributing to the success of the company. Shouldn’t your boss just know this and compensate you accordingly?

In a perfect world, the answer is yes…BUT – in reality, it’s not so simple.

Women are 37% more likely to experience workplace anxiety than men when negotiating a pay rise, according to a report from RADA in Business.

Men are four times more likely than women to ask for a raise—and when women do ask, we typically request 30% less than men do!

For many, the fear and anxiety that surrounds asking for a pay rise is so great, women will keep putting it off. But, if you don’t take the initiative to seek a pay rise, chances are, it won’t happen. You’ll continue to feel undervalued for your contribution, and the resentment you may feel will grow.

Following these 3 simple steps can help you to let go of your fear and anxiety, build up the confidence you need to win you the pay rise you deserve.

Step 1:  The Build Up – How to Quantify Your Value to the Company

Before you even set the meeting to ask for your pay rise, you need to work on building the perfect foundation. You can’t assume your boss will always know what you’re doing to meet your performance goals or to contribute to moving the company forward.

Don’t be afraid to ‘toot your own horn’. It’s important to regularly update your employer on what you are doing, and how you are adding value to the company.

Document Your Achievements

When it comes time to ask for your pay rise, it may be difficult to remember all the big, and little, things that you have done/contributed/achieved that would help build a good case for you getting your pay raise.

Keep a file folder in your desk and each year fill it with the following:

  • An on-going list of achievements
  • Letters of recognition
  • Printed emails of acknowledgement from your employer, co-workers, clients etc.

Keep a running list (in the same folder) of projects and programs you are working on, or have worked on, and how they have added value to the company, and that you think are rise-worthy.

You’ll be amazed at how quickly these will add up. Plus, for you, it can help boost your confidence by validating how you have contributed to the success of the company.

When you go to meet with your boss to discuss your raise, remember to print out a summary of your biggest accomplishments from your file, so you can refer to them during your discussions.

Step 2:  Do Your Research – How to Quantify Your Value in the Market Place

In addition to your own achievements, you want to have facts and figures about what other jobs, similar to yours, are paying, and how they compare to you.  Include performance and market data as well.

When doing your research, you want to find out your job’s worth in the market place, to figure out if you’re being compensated fairly.  If not, the data will help determine how much of a pay raise to ask for.

Consider searching the following sites for salary guidance:

Step 3:  The Dress Rehearsal – Preparing for your Meeting

It’s not what you say – but how you say it. Present your case with as much confidence as possible. To help you go into your meeting feeling prepared and confident consider creating a script and then… practice, practice, practice!!

When creating your script, follow this basic structure to include the following:

  • Explain why you love your job and how you are committed to helping your company grow
  • Articulate your successes – you can refer back to Step1 for this
  • Quantify the results of your successes – for example if you’ve led a team, how you’ve grown as a leader
  • Outline ways you’re willing to take on more responsibility and the new skills you want to acquire
  • Suggest ways you would like to keep working hard for the organization and the goals you’d like to help the company reach

Practice your script again and again. Do it in front of a mirror. Practice it in front of a trusted friend. This may seem tedious, but it will help build your confidence.

Avoid getting emotional or angry – try to be as neutral as you can.  If you find yourself starting to get charged up, go back to your script and shift your focus back to the data and numbers that you prepared.

2 Things To Avoid When Asking For a Pay Rise:

  1. Timing is everything! If your company has just announced budget cuts or your boss has a ton on their plate, and is in a foul mood, or a project you were working on went wrong – these are times when it would NOT be right to ask for your pay rise meeting.
  2. Don’t make it personal. If some unexpected expenses have come up, or you have plans to buy a new house, or upgrade your car, keep this to yourself. The focus should be on the value you bring to the company and what you’re worth in the market place.

If More Money Isn’t an Option – Consider Other Compensation

Be realistic in your expectations. Some studies show that you have less than a 50 percent chance of getting a pay rise at your current place of employment, but don’t let this discourage you.

If your boss denies your request for a raise, depending on why you were denied, all is not lost.

If there are specific performance targets they want you to meet before being considered for a pay rise, write down exactly what you need to do and what the expectations are. Ask for a clear date on when you can schedule a follow up meeting to revisit the issue – three months from now, six months etc.

Make sure to get this in writing! Send your boss a follow up email after your meeting, or prepare a one-page document, with all the details that both you and your boss sign. Make sure the details are specific and can’t be left open to interpretation, including the compensation you’re seeking (eg x% pay increase, $x bonus, flexible workings hours and so on) once you achieve those targets!

If it’s ‘not in the budget’ or a ‘no, for now’, there are other perks or opportunities you can focus on, such as negotiating for:

  • The option to work from home
  • Flexible hours
  • A larger office
  • Administrative help
  • Additional vacation days
  • A one-time bonus
  • Reimbursement for a coaching course, or conference you can attend, to further improve your skills – skills that will help benefit the company (courses and conferences can also offer excellent networking opportunities)

Another option to consider is to negotiate a change in title. It may not seem like a big deal, but if you negotiate a SASSy new title, it will look better on your CV, and may help put you in a better position should you go to other companies.

You’ve done your job well. You’ve put in the hours. You know you’re worth it. Now, have the confidence to go and get it! A pay rise is in your future!

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How to Break Through Limiting Beliefs https://tarahamiltonhoward.com/how-to-break-through-your-limiting-beliefs-4/ Wed, 24 Jul 2019 11:58:34 +0000 https://tarahamiltonhoward.com/?p=1135

Are you sabotaging your own success with your limiting beliefs? Are you holding on to an event that happened in your past that’s holding you back from being the best version of you? Your limiting beliefs may be holding you back from living a more liberating and fulfilling life.

In this blog I will be giving you all the tools you need to help move beyond your limiting beliefs and to develop a positive mindset that will help you step into the life you were meant to live.

You Stupid Girl

You Stupid Girl – I grew up being convinced by my brothers I was a Stupid Little Girl. Adults, that I looked up to, would reinforce it by bellowing at me “YOU SSSSTUUUUPID GIRL”.  I remember forgetting my lunch box for school or knocking over a glass – the sort of thing I’m pretty sure even the cleverest person in the world has done – and it would be met with “You Stupid Girl”. After hearing these words over and over, it became my reality.

You may, or may not, have had those, or similar, words directed at you when you were growing up, or at some point in your life. If you did, you probably know that they can really have a negative impact.

For me, stupid was a role I was given and that I accepted. I played it well until, with help, I realised it was a limiting belief that only existed in my mind, and it was my biggest obstacle getting in the way of success.

My senior school teacher once shared with me “you’re not really very good at anything are you”?  The words …. not really good at anything are you…replayed in my mind like a top 40 hit on the radio every time I tried to do something. I even, at one stage, stopped trying.

What’s Holding YOU Back?

Is there an event that happened in your past that’s holding you back, or something someone has said repeatedly or even just once, that has stuck with you, and keeps you from being the best version of you?

Maybe it’s not a belief in yourself, but your belief about others that’s creating a wall? Or maybe it’s your belief about a group, or about the world-at-large, that you’re struggling with?

Let’s look at these a little closer as you likely have many limiting beliefs holding you back, that you’re not even aware of! They might well be voices in your head that sound like this:

  • “I’m too old to get a new job”
  • “The men at my work always get the promotions”
  • “Money is hard to come by”
  • “I’m too old to go into business for myself”
  • “I don’t have what it takes to be a female entrepreneur”

These are all examples of limiting beliefs. To hold these types of beliefs can negatively influence how you experience life.

The question to ask yourself is “how do my beliefs hold ME back?  What have they prevented ME from achieving or experiencing”?

The Good News

Now, beliefs don’t have to be a bad thing. Beliefs only become a problem when they are not serving you – which can turn into excuses:

  • The excuse to not exercise
  • The excuse to not talk to your boss
  • The excuse to not start your own busines
  • The excuse to not pursue your passion

The good news is, it comes down to MINDSET – you get to choose. You get to choose which beliefs you are going to keep and which beliefs you are going detach from.

Believing in yourself is a choice.

You can allow negative beliefs to rule your life, or you can create new, positive ones. The choice is YOURS!

The Stats

Here’s some ‘food for thought’ and some juicy stats to get your mind working and your entrepreneurial juices flowing.

  • One in three workers aged 45 and over believe their employer discriminates based on age and many believe employers aren’t doing enough to support older workers.
  • More than 70% of businesses started by people in their 50’s survived for at least five years whereas only 28% of those started by younger people last as long

If your limiting beliefs are holding you back, find strength in the truth. Make the choice to focus on the positive stats – and follow your passions.

Breaking Through Your Limiting Beliefs

You may be thinking “I’ve believed this all my life, I can’t change now.”  And I’m here to tell you – YOU CAN.

You have the power in this present moment to change your limiting beliefs.

I know this isn’t easy.  Sometimes it’s easier to just stay comfortable with where you are and with what you’ve been led to believe. But that doesn’t help you move forward towards success and fulfillment.

You may be thinking, I’m too old to make a change. Well, I’m here to convince you that this is just a limiting belief holding you back from reaching your greatest potential.

When I took the step in my 40’s from being employed to being self-employed, I was terrified. The same is true for many of the other self-employed women in my network. But with the right guidance, and support, we can make great things happen.

Free yourself from the imprisonment of your own limiting beliefs. Every day you must unlearn what holds you back. When you can do this – there’s no glass ceiling to what you can accomplish!

Remember, the past is gone. There is no useful payoff in blaming your parents, blaming where you grew up, blaming the teacher who told you that you weren’t good at anything.

It’s now up to you to take responsibility. Take charge of your mindset and shape the life you deserve.

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Instazine Issue 1 https://tarahamiltonhoward.com/instazine-issue-1/ Fri, 12 Jul 2019 19:01:26 +0000 http://tarahamiltonhoward.com/?p=628 Healthy Living = Healthy Life. https://tarahamiltonhoward.com/healthy-living-healthy-life/ Tue, 09 Jul 2019 20:17:10 +0000 http://tarahamiltonhoward.com/?p=565

The recipes I’ll be sharing with you will mostly be plant-based or vegan.

They’re all ones that I’ve tried, and are quick, healthy and best of all, yummy!! ENJOY!

Revisiting old sweets today and obsessing over these chocolate caramel bars

🥰 Here’s the recipe, it’s almost four years old but still such a beauty… Serves: 16 🥰

Deliciously Ella – Chocolate Caramel Bar

FOR THE BASE
100g of coconut flour
100g of oat flour
60g of coconut oil
60ml of maple syrup
A pinch of salt

FOR THE CARAMEL LAYER
400g of medjool dates, pitted
100ml of water
2 tablespoons of almond butter
A pinch of salt

FOR THE CHOCOLATE LAYER
Melted dark chocolate

METHOD:

To make the base, melt the coconut oil over a low heat then mix in the coconut flour, oat flour, maple syrup and salt until a dough forms. Line a baking tray with greaseproof paper and press the dough down firmly into the bottom of the tray. Place the tray in the freezer while you make the caramel.

To make the caramel simply blend the dates, almond butter, water and salt in a food processor until a smooth paste forms. Spread this date mixture over the top of the oat base and place back in the freezer for at least an hour to set fully.

Melt the dark chocolate. When that is ready you can remove the tray from the freezer and cut into 16 equal bars. Dip each bar in the chocolate and leave on a rack to set.

You will need to dip each bar at least twice, leaving it to set between dippings, to make sure it is evenly coated in chocolate. Then sprinkle a tiny bit of salt on top of each bar while they are setting.

Once they are set, place them on a plate and leave them to set in the fridge for a few minutes. Store any leftover bars after serving in the fridge, or the freezer if you want them to last longer.

Enjoy…

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Why Do You Need A Why? https://tarahamiltonhoward.com/why-do-you-need-a-why-2/ Wed, 03 Jul 2019 11:31:38 +0000 http://tarahamiltonhoward.com/?p=440

How to Find your Purpose

Are you just going day-to-day stuck in the hamster wheel of corporate life, or what you think you’re meant to be doing but with no real insight as to why? Taking the time to find your life purpose will help guide you to a more meaningful and fulfilling life.

“You’ve changed my life.” The first time I heard someone tell me these words, I wasn’t expecting it and hadn’t planned for it. A fuzzy, buzzy feeling surged through me, and just like that, my outlook on myself, and the world shifted.

I believe we’re all born with a unique life purpose – a central motivating focus that makes us jump out of bed in the morning.

An amazing thing has happened to me over the years. My mindset of what it means to be successful has shifted. I used to believe the definition of success was to have the big house, the fancy car, the designer purses; but now, I realize it’s so much more than that.

What does success mean to you?

In this blog, I will share how YOU can start on the path to realizing your bigger purpose in life. How to uncover your passions, discover your secret sauce, and make it work for you – so you can begin living a more liberating and fulfilling life!

The More You Have…The Happier You Are…Right?

 WRONG! I’m old enough to remember the 90’s, where success was all about material things: a bigger house, a better car, and a big ego. For many people, once this was achieved, it wasn’t enough – they wanted more. More money, an even bigger house, a fancier car…and a bigger ego to boot.

 

 The fact is, once their income is over a certain level, people don’t necessarily get any happier.

In a 2010 study conducted at Princeton University, researchers found that $75,000 is the annual salary at which people feel most sustainably happy. Beyond that, regardless of how much more a person earns, happiness generally plateaus. Now, this figure has since gone up with inflation, but the take-away has not changed. The more you earn does not equate to a happier life.

Once your basic needs are met, and you don’t have to feel stressed about making ends meet, true happiness will come from pursuing your passions.

When we’ve met our basic needs, whatever they might be, we can all benefit from having a driving force. Something that gets us going and gives us significance…a true purpose in life. It can come from our primary focus in life, or from a side hustle. 

Finding your WHY

Finding your “WHY” in life is the most important thing you could possibly do for yourself. When you live your life with purpose, it allows you to focus on things that matter to you the most.

For some of us, our WHY – our calling and passion in life – is obvious and clear. We’re born with unique talents. Through practice and persistence, we can develop them into skills to meet our purpose.

 

 

For me, and for many of the other women in my network, my WHY wasn’t so clear. I didn’t even know I was looking for a purpose, and it didn’t present itself until I was in my 40’s. Until then, everything I’d been doing was only me or mine focused, which was fine, I did well with that.

I was the Managing Director for over 20 years in my family hotel business and helped hundreds of brides have a perfect wedding day. I managed dozens of team members and helped them work together. Somehow, I also managed to simultaneously produce, and nurture, 4 amazing children. But, my only daily purpose was to work for the hotel.

When I was unexpectantly forced, by redundancy, into making the jump from being an employee, to working for myself, it was scary. And for a period, I struggled to find my WHY, and truly understand my purpose.

Shortly after starting Venus Awards – celebrating the achievements of Women in Business – those words were first uttered to me…“You have changed my life”…and my WHY became clear. I found my purpose and realized I can make a difference in the world.

My Purpose

Here’s a juicy stat for you: Women are more than 4 times more likely to express entrepreneurial intentions, than actually become entrepreneurs. My purpose is to help change that statistic!! 

 A lack of understanding your purpose, and not knowing your WHY, is likely a contributing factor preventing you, and women like you, from becoming self-employed.

 

I know what you may be thinking…I don’t know what my passion is. I don’t have a WHY. For this reason, you don’t think you can do it, and you don’t pursue anything further.

I’m here to tell you – YOU CAN DO IT! Let’s uncover your passions and discover your secret sauce – and we’ll figure out how to make it work for you.

It’s the Why That Makes a Difference

Blake Mycoskie, the founder of Toms Shoes developed a one-for-one program. Every time you buy a pair of his shoes, another pair goes to a child in need. Toms Shoes has provided over 86 million pairs of shoes to children and that number keeps growing. They have also expanded their business model to include Toms Eyewear.

Blake’s take on purpose:

If you organize your life around your passion, you can turn your passion into your story and then turn your story into something bigger – something that matters. 

  • It’s the WHY that makes a difference.
  • It’s the WHY that gets you jumping out of bed in the morning.
  • It’s the WHY that helps you smash through those nasty obstacles along the way.
  • It’s the WHY that gives us that crucial sense of significance in the world.

 Whatever YOU do, it doesn’t have to be a biggie like Blake’s, it doesn’t have to be saving the world or saving lives. It just needs to be yours.

 

Finding your WHY will be the reason you jump out of bed in the morning. It will help guide life decisions, influence your daily habits and behaviour, offer you a sense of direction and give your life meaning.

 If you have yet to discover your life’s purpose, try asking your subconscious to keep a look out. You can also start by asking yourself these questions:

Getting Started 

  1. What you are passionate about?
  2. What do you have experience in?
  3. Who or what do you want to make a difference to?
  4. How might you make a difference?

 Now, I want you to see if you can fill in the blanks here for creating your Life Purpose Statement:

I could combine my passion for _____________with my experience of _________ to help ___________in using a ___________.

 Remember, there’s no right or wrong answer here, and there may be more than one single option to fill in the blanks. Here’s one of my examples:

 I could combine my passion for women in business with my experience of events to recognise and acknowledge women, using an awards program.

 Don’t worry if you can’t come up with the perfect answers right away. Whilst purpose is the destination, the vehicle is self-belief. You can have success and I can help you achieve it.

What's holding you back right now? Lack of confidence, lack of self-belief or you want to re-invent yourself and don't know where to start?

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How to Find your Purpose

Are you just going day-to-day stuck in the hamster wheel of corporate life, or what you think you’re meant to be doing but with no real insight as to why? Taking the time to find your life purpose will help guide you to a more meaningful and fulfilling life.

“You’ve changed my life.” The first time I heard someone tell me these words, I wasn’t expecting it and hadn’t planned for it. A fuzzy, buzzy feeling surged through me, and just like that, my outlook on myself, and the world shifted.

I believe we’re all born with a unique life purpose – a central motivating focus that makes us jump out of bed in the morning.

An amazing thing has happened to me over the years. My mindset of what it means to be successful has shifted. I used to believe the definition of success was to have the big house, the fancy car, the designer purses; but now, I realize it’s so much more than that.

What does success mean to you?

In this blog, I will share how YOU can start on the path to realizing your bigger purpose in life. How to uncover your passions, discover your secret sauce, and make it work for you – so you can begin living a more liberating and fulfilling life!

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